I NEED HELP! Ok so, I’ve liked this boy for about 3 years, and this year I had finally gotten over him…moved on and stuff. But then last night pictures of him showed up on my news feed on Facebook, and let me tell you…he looked cuter then I’ve EVER seen him before. And just that night I was planning on going to the carnival with him, cause, get this – his sister is one of my best friends (she was going to come too)! She’s so protective over him & thinks that I sometimes just use her to get to him, but that’s totally not true! I convinced her that I didn’t like him anymore…and then I saw him & fell in love with him all over again. He’s so cute & sweet & hilarious, but my friend ALWAYS used to embarrass me RIGHT IN FRONT OF HIM! Like she told him that I had a huge crush on him while I was sitting right next to him. It was so awkward & I was positive that he thought I was a complete freak & nothing would ever become of this stupid little crush. Besides…I’m a freshie and he’s in 11th grade! Stuff like him liking me…it just never happens to people like me. I mean..he obviously has girls HIS AGE who are gorgeous & I’m just plain old me. But now…he’s all I think about. AGAIN. And I don’t know what to do…I LOVE my friend but I LOOVEE her brother. HELP? 😦
We totally understand where you’re coming from with this, and as a matter of fact one of us had the same situation with a friend not too long ago. When you’re interested in the sibling of a friend, it’s hard to establish boundaries. When you’re sitting in your room talking to each other, is it okay for you to dote on her brother? When you’re talking about guys that you’re interested in, are you allowed to bring his name up? We understand that that’s an awkward situation for both you and her. It’d probably be best to sit down and talk to her about what she’s comfortable with and what she’s not. It could be that she fears being overshadowed by him if you two were interested in each other. And no girl wants to lose a friend over a guy, especially a relative. With that said, the bigger issue is figuring out how he feels. There’s one of two potential sentiments on his part: he either sees you as a little sister and is flattered yet unaffected that you like him, or he secretly acknowledges the fact that he could have feelings for you too. He probably will not come out and say anything, so if you sit down and clear the air with your friend, if the two of them are close, which it sounds like, she could probably give you some insight into how he’s really feeling. We wouldn’t worry about the age thing; two years is not a big disparity at all, plus guys typically don’t mind younger girls. Don’t stress too much about looks either. Sure, it’s normal to feel a little anxious about the gorgeous older girls he may know, but it takes a lot more than that to form an attraction. Plus, sometimes the “Girl Next Door” look/personality eventually pulls through and everything works out. So sit down with your friend, establish boundaries and let her know how you really feel, while trying to get a feel of how he feels too. Don’t set your hopes too high for potential, but don’t give up either. We have a friend who’s been dating one of our brothers for 2 years now, and he’s a freshman in college and she’s going to be a junior in high school. Good luck! Go for it A!